Often times I hear from people who are moved by the message of adoption but are not in a place in life where adoption is an option. They may have read something or heard Kelsey or I speak. They end up feeling more condemned than encouraged…because it’s not possible for them to adopt at this time.
I want to let them (and you) in on a little secret. I don’t think everyone is supposed to adopt. I think more people are supposed to than are willing to think about it, but I also know there are people who are fully supportive and yet are not supposed to participate in the adoption movement in that way.
At the same time…there is room for everyone to participate in adoption. Here are a couple of ways you can get in the game, even if now is not the season for you to bring a child into your home.
Become an adoptive grandparent.
Find an adoptive family in your sphere who may not have a lot of family support and pronounce yourself family. Do the fun stuff that grandparents can do and parents can’t afford. Show up with a surprise from the dollar store. Send cards with a couple of bucks in it. Single out a family to love in tangible ways. Particularly in our transient culture, people often live far away from the sorts of people who used to do these things for them.
Use your pulpit.
Don’t skip this just because you’re not a pastor. Everyone has a pulpit. Maybe a better way to describe it is a platform. A blog, a small group, a friend captive in your car on a long drive. Talk about adoption. Tell them why it’s important. Let it hang awkwardly as your married friends wrestle with the fact that behind closed doors, they have this discussion over and over again.
Invest your finances.
Why should you help someone else adopt? Don’t people have a responsibility to pay for the expenses of their family? Yes….and no. The needs of the widows and orphans rest on the whole of the church. Most families incur huge expenses in adopting. By pitching in your 2 cents or 2 grand, you are living in obedience.
Truthfully, you have the most to gain. Yes, your funds matter, but in the grand scheme of things, the adoptive family is going to be buying tennis shoes, lunch tickets, tuition and book bags until the cows come home. Get in on the ground floor of this investment and know for the rest of your life that you helped set that child in the place God had for them. That’s a pretty good return on investment.
Recently, a young man in his early 20’s approached me. He’d been saving for a long time and wanted to invest in adoption. Expecting him to hand me a couple of twenties, he wrote out a check to The Zoe Foundation for $1200, which we will in turn give to families to help with adoption expenses. He walked away on top of the world. He was a part of the grand conspiracy to rob the enemy of orphans.
Not everyone is going to adopt….but everyone can participate. Don’t let your inability to take in a child stop you from being a part of it.
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